hey there, youtube! you guys asked for it,and i delivered… in this video, i’m going to talk about 4 text messages you can sendto your spouse right now that will re-spark some of the passion and romance that’s beenmissing for so long. yes, rekindling some of the desire and attraction can be that easyif you know what you’re doing… it’s brad browning here, by the way. i’ma marriage coach and best-selling author.
Why We Love Wedding (And You Should, Too!), now, before i get started with this video,i first have to tell you how to not text your husband or wife. these are text messages thatdon’t build attraction, romance, or passion. and in some cases, these common text messagescan actually make your spouse feel less attracted to you. so let’s jump into some examplesof what not to text your spouse before we
get into what to text your spouse. bad text #1 – the demanding text message it’s obviously okay to ask your spouse todo something for you. after all, you and your spouse are married and you are a team. however,if you start demanding too much of your spouse, you could turn yourself into what i like tocall a “texting terroristâ€. if you want to improve your texting relationshipwith your spouse, then you’re going to have give him or her enough space and not constantlysend a barrage of texts. it’s extremely attractive to be highly independent in a relationship,so instead of constantly asking your spouse to be your servant, try and take responsibilityfor things… even the little ones.
bad text #2 – the overcritical text message texts like, “you’re always late… youdon’t show me enough affection… you’re always watching tv,†are texts that arejust asking for disaster. you always want to improve your spouse and support them, butsometimes we can show the support the wrong way. when you criticize or belittle your spouse,you aren’t encouraging them to be better. studies have shown that telling someone howlittle value they have will force the person to actually believe that they’re worthless. here’s a quick tip if you’re guilty ofsending the “overcritical text messageâ€. if you want your spouse to improve on someaspect of their life, try using the word “iâ€
instead of “youâ€. for example, insteadof saying, “you’re so messy and you’re the reason why our place is always messy,â€say something along the lines of, “i’d like it if this room wasn’t so messy, hun.â€small changes in the way you communicate with your spouse can make a massive differencein your relationship, so keep this in mind the next time you feel like criticizing yourpartner. bad text #3 - the argumentative text another way you can turn yourself into whati call a “texting terrorist†is by constantly picking fights with your spouse through textmessage. sometimes arguing through text can be easier than arguing in real life, but iwould highly recommend against it. why? because
while texting allows you time to come up withappropriate rebuttals, what you say can often times be misinterpreted, which could leadto an even bigger argument. you also don’t have the luxury of showing calming body language,which helps you keep arguments from getting out of hand. so the next time you have anurge to bring up a sticky issue through text, don’t. wait until you’re in the appropriateenvironment to have a serious discussion. of course, this is only a handful of whati call “attraction destroying text messages.†if you want to learn more about these marriagemurdering mistakes, then head over to my website, www.marriageguy.com and watch the free videopresentation on that website. again, the url is www.marriageguy.com.
and by the way, if you can think of any otherkinds of text messages you should not text your husband or wife, please use the commentssection below and let me know. you never know, i might mention your example in my next youtubevideo! now onto text messages you should send yourspouse. these are text messages that are designed to spice things up and make things interestingagain between you and your spouse… but i have to warn you that these text messagesaren’t for all situations. if you and your spouse are on the rocks or are currently noton speaking terms, then you probably shouldn’t be sending these text messages right now.but if used correctly, these text messages can work wonders on your marriage. here are4 text messages that you can use to spice
things up… 1.) text number 1 – the imagine text texting is a great way to force the personyou’re texting to use their imagination. you can make your spouse feel a myriad ofemotions just be sending a few short text messages… and the “imagine text†isperfect for this. let me jump right into an example… you can say something like… “i can’t wait to see you. can you imaginehow amazing it will feel once i wrap my arms around you tonight?†now, it sounds really cheesy and awful wheni say it in this video, but trust me when
i say that it won’t sound cheesy to yourspouse. of course you can tailor this text message to any sort of situation… so feelfree to use your imagination with the imagine text! 2.) text number 2 – the gratitude text it’s so easy to take your husband or wifefor granted. if you’ve been married for a long time, you can lose sight of why youmarried your husband or wife to begin with. the gratitude text is designed to make sureyour spouse knows that you appreciate him or her in a way that nobody else in the worldcan. let’s jump right into another example. you can say something like…
“i may not say this as much as i should,but i need to tell you how much i appreciate you being there for me whenever i need you.it’s one of the reasons why i married you.†once again, you can tailor this text messageto your situation. try and really think of something you honestly do appreciate aboutyour spouse…and then say it. 3.) text number 3 – the deep memory text this is a text message that is designed toforce your ex to think about an extremely memorable time in the past…and relive it.forcing your ex to focus on these nostalgic memories will cause them to feel not onlymore attracted to you, but will encourage them to continue making great memories withyou. let’s jump into an example:
“do you remember when we were in paris,and we went on that cruise along the seine? i always remembered how amazing you lookedin that blue dress!†and obviously, you need to tailor this textmessage to your current situation. but this is one of my most favorite kinds of textsbecause it’s so much fun to talk about fond memories with your spouse. 4.) text number 4 – the private text this is one is really fun. the goal of thesekinds of text messages is to have a private conversation with your spouse while you’reat a party or social gathering. do you remember how fun it was to send your friends notesin high school? think of it like that… but
with your spouse! let’s jump right intoan example… say you’re at a party and you and your spouseare both having separate conversations with other people… you could say something like… “that guy/girl is totally hitting on youand i don’t blame him/her.†or here’s another one… “i wish we were alone right now. =)†tiny text messages like this can do wonders…and they can make your marriage feel much more alive. i would definitely recommend sendingthese text messages when it looks like you’re spouse isn’t having much fun at the party…this can really cheer your spouse up.
anyways, these text messages are just scratchingthe surface. if your marriage is on the rocks and you need help reviving it, then head overto my website, marriageguy.com and watch the free video presentation on that website. inthat video, i tell you the 3 psychological strategies that you can employ right now tomake sure your spouse will forever see you as their one and only. if you’re interested in hiring me as yourrelationship coach, then simply go to www.marriageguy.com/coaching and see how you can register for that service. thanks for watching this video. if you’vefound it helpful, please subscribe to my youtube channel… i’d really appreciate it! thanksso much and talk to you soon.
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